I went the route of tasteful chrome trim on the outside of the car (trim pieces like decktrim/petrol surround/grills ONLY!) and brushed aluminium trim in the interior.
Chrome in the interior is a bit chavvy imho, whereas brushed aluminium is more refined. But that's just my personal taste.
I've never seen brushed door handles for sale, but you could probably get a pair of normal ones on ebay and find a local metal/chrome firm that may offer a brushed service.