I've fished out the connector and discovered the white/red wire..it goes nowhere except to that connector and no further. The wires also change colour at the connector..very helpful..Not!
Also attached a couple of piccies showing the inside of the rear view mirror..for completeness..Also shows how the LEDs are located..
I'll create a How To (replace the OEM reversing sensor system with generic) eventually. First though I want to see if the existing buzzer in the mirror can be used.